Life is a journey we all walk, stumble and trip through. We come into this world as a fresh slate with no ideas of what the outside world is like, and through our experiences and those who influence us we learn and grow and shape ourselves into the human being that we currently are.
It’s an odd experience if you take the time to think about it; varied in an endless amount of possibilities within a single life time, almost like a universal spider-web, one for each human that lived and has lived, all of which are connected to each other, presenting the possibilities of sudden chance encounters with someone you never believed you’d met, or the kindness of a stranger that would make you rethink your dismissal of kindness in humanity, or on the opposite spectrum, the darkness of the human capacity to inflict pain.
Regardless of the situation, one thing that is universally known is that there is something to be learned from each event, each encounter, and that this is what gives rise to wisdom and clarity in life.
But there definitely are some benefits to learning certain things from a young age; life lessons that will make the journey into your 30’s and beyond much easier if found within your 20’s or even your teens.
Today we’ll be talking about some of those lessons, and we ask for the readers to reflect on what you’re about to read; be it during your dinner outing in San Diego at your favorite restaurant in San Diego , or at home munching on your healthy takeout food, a little reflection is good for all of us and helps to bring out inner peace.
- The Pursuit of Happiness
It is quite easy to lose sight of the simpler things in life and get caught up in the daily drama that surrounds us; from the worry and stresses of work, school, social responsibilities, and our own insecurities. But the fact remains that we are all simply seeking peace and happiness in our lifetimes. We all seek the comfort of valued friendships and relationships, the coziness of a warm home, and the happiness of self-acceptance. Yet many can feel that these aspects of life are next to impossible to achieve when life is constantly throwing problem after problem your way.
When an individual reaches those feelings of suffocation, it’s good to take a second to breathe and let the world fade into the back ground, and look around, really look at the small details; the simple beauty and small gestures that bring a smile to your face. It’s these small moments that help us get through the tough moments of life and remember that in this ever moving pendulum called life, reflecting on the good during the dark times can be a saving grace, but never hold on to those moments, because once you latch on to the past, you’ll never be able to move forward and appreciate the good in around you in the present.
2. Loss and What Remains
It is an inevitable fact of life that we will experience loss, and for many this can be one of the greatest reasons of fear and worry in life; the breaking heartache of that emptiness in your chest, a void unlike any other you experience in your life, when those that matter are gone from your life. It feels like something is missing, your brain tells you, and you seemingly can’t process it, it feels too unreal. This spiral and lack of acceptance are the very first steps to the long and dark road of escapism; be it at the bottom of a bottle or the last bit of bud, and the halt to any happiness and progress in life, though depending on the person not necessarily in every aspect of your life.
But take heart that those who are no longer with us live on through us, through their teachings and encouragement and the fruits of their labor, they live on.
And lastly, consider your relationship with pain, and what it means to you. If you consider pain as a harsh but undoubtedly successful teacher, you’ll be able to maneuver through the hardships with greater ease, and you’ll find that the void from loss fills quicker, allowing you to find resolution.
3. Seeking Acceptance
The trap of acceptance is a tricky one, because it begins from a very young age, and that can allow it to be accumulated into our norms without really considering its adverse effects. Be it when your parents take you to the playground for the first time, or the first day of elementary school, we begin a process to find friends, fit in, and commune with our social circle. But where is the line drawn between having friends and sacrificing who you are to fit in?
You’ll probably find many quotes online saying that the realest people don’t have many friends, and generally that’s true, because with authenticity comes the chance for incompatibility, and to find those that will accept and respect your genuine self is not an easy process. So what do you do? Well first you need to consider that if you have to conform and change who you are to be around someone, that isn’t friendship, that is control.
Second, accept that it might not happen during your 12 years of schooling, or at your job, or any of the places that your time is normally spent. We gravitate to the people who share similar interests, and if you want to find authentic like-minded individuals, you need to have the strength to pursue the aspects of life that you enjoy.
Most importantly, consider that seeking acceptance and approval of anyone other than yourself is a toxic and dangerous road. The opinions and ideas others have about you within their own mind should have no bearing on your thoughts and your personal satisfaction.
You spend 24 hours a day with yourself, everyone else varies. Consider the words of others when you know it comes from a point of constructive criticism or care, but if it’s just their own opinionated ideologies with no consideration of who you are and your own path in life, then that deserves to be tossed right out of your mind and into the garbage bin.
What do you think of these points about life? Do you believe it is important to learn these lessons? Do you consider them lessons in the first place? Let us know in the comments.
Wishing you all happiness and love from SolCal.